I talked to a friend who had twins recently and asked her what surprised her the most about having twins.
She told me that she didn’t expect to be so anchored to the house.
You’ll likely feel the same way with newborn twins: stuck at home.
Why do twins create this tether to your home?
Each baby has significant needs. With twins, you must take care of twice those needs plus the overhead of having two babies.
Loading up your newborn twins in the car will always take longer than you think. You’ll:
- Dress each twin in weather appropriate clothing (jackets, coats, etc.)
- Pack the diaper bag for all possibilities
- Load each baby in his or her car seat
- Adjust the car seat straps to account for baby’s current outerwear
- Run back into the house to grab your shopping list, bag, keys, or whatever you forgot
- Stop before you’ve backed out of the driveway since one of your twins just had a blow out
- Reverse the process to clean up the blow out mess
- Take baby back inside and clean her up
- Change her clothes (maybe yours, too) and ready her for her car seat
- Realize you need to clean the car seat, too
- Abort mission since it will take time to clean the seat and you can’t travel without it
When you have a few trips like this, you’ll start to opt for not even trying to leave the house.
Newborn twins need to eat every couple of hours. While feedings start to spread out over time, initially, you will feel like you are constantly feeding your babies.
Constant feeding doesn’t offer time to leave the house.
Even after your twins leave the newborn stage and start taking naps a couple of times a day, you’ll feel like you have limited windows of opportunity to do anything.
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When the twins wake up, you’ll have to rush to load them up in the car and run your errands before they get hungry and cranky and need to be fed before their next nap.
Due to the demands of your daily life with infant twins, you’ll be exhausted and sleep deprived.
When you’re tired and finally get a break, the last thing you’ll want to do is leave the house because it will seem like too much work.
So why do infant twins anchor you to the house? It is the path of least resistance.
Don’t worry, as your twins get older, you’ll have more freedom. You just have to endure the foggy first year.
Already have twins? What always seemed to keep you stuck at home?
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