Finding Positive Reinforcement When Expecting Twins

Joe Rawlinson by Joe Rawlinson - February 28, 2017

I heard from a dad who mentioned that his wife is overwhelmed with the negative remarks out there. They wanted to know where to find positive reinforcement to help keep their sanity.

Father Holding Newborn Twins

Unfortunately, there are a lot of risks with a twin pregnancy. When these complications happen, they get a lot of attention because they are potentially devastating to you, your wife, and twins.

If you spend all your time considering all the bad things that can happen, you’ll drown in hypothetical disasters that likely will never happen.

What You Can Control

In order to get through the realm of negative possibilities, focus on what you can do and control yourself. You can do many things to help have a healthy twin pregnancy. Additionally, you can do a lot during the pregnancy to prepare for your twins’ arrival.

By controlling what you can, you’ll focus your mind and help push out negative thoughts that might weigh you down.

Your Local Twins Club

A great resource for seeking positive reinforcement is to talk to other parents of twins. Keep in mind that some may have horror stories that might scare you, but most are very supportive and will help you cope with the challenges you are facing.

Find a local club in your state here.

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Online Forums

One of the best online forums I’ve found is the “Got Twins?” community on BabyCenter.com. This forum is full of helpful parents of twins (mostly moms) who have been through your challenges and are willing to listen and help you.

Celebrate Successes

As you progress through the twin pregnancy, celebrate each little milestone that you cross. Each successful ultrasound or doctor’s visit is a victory. You’ll learn more about your babies and get a glimpse into what is coming.

Focus on what you can control and on what is going well and you’ll be ready for any challenges that arise.

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Further Reading

Dad's Guide to Raising Twins book
Don't forget to pick up a copy of the definitive guide to raising twins. "Dad's Guide to Raising Twins" was written for fathers of twins to help guide you through the first several years with twins. Click here to learn more about the book and get your copy.

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