One of the things I worried about when we brought our twin daughters home from the hospital was getting them mixed up.
I wanted to make sure we knew who was who all the time. We took measures to keep our girls from being mixed up:
- We color coded what clothes they wore.
- We left their hospital bands on for a few days after we got home.
- We never had two naked babies at the same time – since without color coded clothes we might be in trouble.
- We looked for physical and personality differences to distinguish them from each other.
For parents of identical twins, you have to at least try something to keep every one clearly identified. Swaddled up boy/girl twins can look surprisingly alike too.
You will have people ask you when you’re out shopping or at the park: “do you get your twins mixed up?”
My first thought is how would we know if we actually got them mixed up? Wouldn’t we just go on living and think we were dealing with one twin when it was actually her sister?
I suppose a great mix up could happen when Mom thinks she has one twin and you’re pretty sure you have the same one.
We never had a mix up in our home — that we know about.
How to Respond to This Question
When people ask you if you ever get your twins mixed up, here are some ways you can answer:
“Yes, all the time” – then laugh!
“Yes, in fact, I’m not sure which is which right now.” – this will draw out a quizzical look from the person asking “Really? You don’t know?”
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“Maybe. I think I’ve got them straight today.”
“No, we’ve embedded a RFID chip under their skin so we can scan them and tell who is who with an app on our iPhone.”
“No, they are boy/girl twins.” – You’ll then need to hope the questioner actually understands the differences.
“We did in the beginning but after 30 days we just picked one twin and decided who was who.”
“No, we tattooed a serial number on each.”
Read more about keeping your twins straight and other identity issues in Chapter 7 of my book, the Dad’s Guide to Raising Twins: How to Thrive as a Father of Twins.
Have you gotten the “mix up” question about your twins? How did you respond? Let us know in the comments.