Good Sleeper / Bad Sleeper: How to Handle Sleeping Twins

Joe Rawlinson by Joe Rawlinson - January 30, 2021

I got an email from a father of twins seeking advice on how to get both his twin girls to sleep in the same room. One is a really good sleeper and the other is very restless.

Sleeping Twins

Will a restless twin wake up her sister if they are in the same room?

Our girls seemed to sleep fine through the cries of each other. If the sleeping child is the “good sleeper,” the chances are she will remain asleep regardless of the noise her sister makes. Granted, if the restless twin starts making lots of sharp, harsh noises (i.e., is having a fit), this will probably wake up the other. Remove her as a courtesy to the household sleepers and calm her down in the opposite end of the house. However, don’t feel like you have to immediately remove the restless baby at the first sound she makes.

If the restless twin is such because she doesn’t want you to leave the room, try a gradual approach.

One thing that has worked for us in the past is staying in the room after we put a baby in the crib. Your presence will comfort the child and slowly you can work your way out of the room.

This may take several nights of you putting the baby down and then standing or sitting progressively farther away from the crib. Perhaps if your baby isn’t accustomed to the crib, you could put the crib in your room and once she is used to sleeping in there you can move the crib to her room.

A general rule of thumb is to start as you mean to go on. The earlier you can get your twins in the sleeping arrangement you want (in their cribs in their room), the better life will be for all. The longer you go on with bandaid solutions, the harder the habit and routine will be to break.

A book I highly recommend is The Sleep Lady’s Good Night, Sleep Tight. It served us well in getting our kids into a good sleep routine.

Picture by Nayelli Rodriguez

Need help sleep training your twins? Check out this step-by-step guide to sleep training twins from fellow parent of twins, Nina Garcia.

Further Reading

Dad's Guide to Raising Twins book
Don't forget to pick up a copy of the definitive guide to raising twins. "Dad's Guide to Raising Twins" was written for fathers of twins to help guide you through the first several years with twins. Click here to learn more about the book and get your copy.

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