Feeding, Sleeping, Raising — How To Care For Twins Without Losing Your Sanity

Joe Rawlinson by Joe Rawlinson - February 13, 2018

It’ll be crazy busy when twins are born into the family. You may get twice as much fun and twice as much love from twins, but you also need to work twice as hard. Having a baby is already a challenge in itself but if you were to be blessed with beautiful baby twins, you’ll need to pull double duty. Here’s how to do it as efficiently as possible.

Parents and Twins
Being a father of twins means twice the fun, but also twice the work.

The Super Parent is a Myth

Ask for help when you can.

Don’t be afraid to ask for practical support from family and friends. You’d be surprised at the level of help you’ll get if you only ask. This is especially crucial when you bring your twin babies home. Mom will need time to recover from delivery (and likely a c-section). You might have read all the books about how to care for twins, but without an extra pair of hands, you will run yourself ragged.

So ask your sister, sister-in-law, mom, or dad if they can pitch in with diaper changes, babysitting, or maybe picking up dinner — any small thing that can help you stay organized would be fantastic.

Prepare For Your Twins

This means having two car seats, a twin baby stroller, two cribs (some parents only get one crib first, and then move on to getting another one as the babies get older), and other essential items before the twins are born. So don’t wait until the end of the pregnancy to run around baby stores snatching up any stroller or car seat you find.

Try to Follow a Schedule

Whether it’s feeding, sleeping or nap time, you’ll want to create a schedule for your twins because this will help you get the “crazy” out of caring for twins. Keep them on the same feeding and sleeping time so you’re free to do what you need to do afterwards. The feeding part is going to be tricky because breastfeeding both babies at the same time takes some practice. If you bottle feed (formula or expressed breast milk), it is easier for Mom and Dad to help with feedings.

(RELATED: Still looking for the right twin gear? See my Twin Baby Gear Essentials.)

Take a Break

Finally, the best way to take care of your twins — and all your kids, really — is to take real good care of yourself. Calm and happy parents make for calm and happy kids (well, most of the time). So try to get out of the house (let the grandparents babysit) and go for a run with your spouse or friends. Do a date night. Relax, rejuvenate, and come back home to your babies feeling energized for whatever challenges may come with raising twins.

Picture by surlygirl.

Further Reading

Dad's Guide to Raising Twins book
Don't forget to pick up a copy of the definitive guide to raising twins. "Dad's Guide to Raising Twins" was written for fathers of twins to help guide you through the first several years with twins. Click here to learn more about the book and get your copy.

6 thoughts on “Feeding, Sleeping, Raising — How To Care For Twins Without Losing Your Sanity”

  1. Caring for twins is a hand full with mom and dad in the picture. It become even more so when like me, you are a single father trying to raise twin girls. I have to rely on help from my parents a lot otherwise I would go crazy trying to juggle school, work and trying to raise two baby girls. Family is always important and are usually willing to go out of their way to lend a hand.

    • Single parenting of twins if not easy at all. Keep it up and congratulations. I am a single mother of 7 months twin boys. It is fun raising them but a hell lot of work. Just as Joe says, you need to first take care of yourself to be able to take care of your twins well. Am going to stick to that. I have tried it and it worked. Thanks Joe for the very good job you are doing to guide us on how to handle twins. The guide works very well especially for those of us who are single parents of twins.

      • @Molly – You’ll definitely need to take care of yourself to have the mental and physical strength to care for your twins. I’m glad these tips have been helpful to you. I wish you and your boys all the best.

  2. This is great advice. I’ve read most of it before but it helps to read it over and over again! Being able to ask for help has been a lifesaver for us!


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