I got a great question this week from an expectant twin father who already has a young son at home. He wondered about how he would juggle time demands with twins and a toddler.
Having a toddler by himself is a handful for any parent. When you combine that with newborn twins, things get really crazy.
When our twin girls were born, they joined their brothers ages 3 and 22 months who had preceded them in our family. So I know firsthand how this situation can be challenging.
How can you juggle the time demands of twins with a toddler? Here are some things to consider:
- Lower your expectations. Whatever you thought you could get done won’t get done.
- Forget about you. Newborn twins require all hands on deck. Toddlers definitely need attention, too. You will be busy and it will be a rare moment that you find time to do anything you want to do.
- Get help. There is no shame in asking for help from family or friends. Many hands make light work and you can always use an extra set of hands to help with the twins while you push your toddler in the swing for 20 minutes.
- Let it go, whatever “it” is that you were expecting, particularly during waking hours. Time to relax? Let it go. Time for sleep? Let it go. Time to clean? Don’t even think about it. You get the picture.
- Prepare your toddler for the arrival of twin siblings and make conscious efforts to plan out how you will handle your other child when the twins come home.
Handling twins and a toddler is a challenge. If you go into it mindful that you will need to tend to all of your children’s needs–even if that means getting some helping hands–you’ll be able to manage.
Best of luck!
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