I’m often asked what advice I’d give parents expecting twins.
My answer is always this: get helpers.
We got this advice while we were pregnant with our twin girls. It was the best advice we got.
After the birth of our girls, we were so overwhelmed with the logistics of nighttime feedings and sleep deprivation that we truly needed an extra pair of hands.
You’ll use helpers to do everything you do:
- feed the twins
- change diapers
- soothe babies
- do the dishes
- play with your other kids
- clean the bathroom
- go grocery shopping
- make dinner
- and more…
You’ll notice that in the early days of twins, they don’t need much. They just need food, a change of diapers/clothes, and sleep. The problem is that they need those things all the time.
Your constant care for your newborn twins will wear you out and preclude you from doing other tasks around the house.
This is where helpers are so great. Anything you are doing, they can substitute for you and relieve your burden.
Sign up helpers early and often during the pregnancy so that when your twins arrive, your helpers will be ready to jump in and assist.
Ideally, you’d have a family member or friend stay with you in your home to help with the twins. This will allow you to take turns waking up with the babies at night and allow you more sleep.
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You know your situation and resources best. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and be as creative as you can in utilizing it.
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