When I first learned we were having twins, I was in shock. I stayed in that state of shock for at least several weeks.
This shock was fueled by fears and questions of how I would successfully care for my family.
One of my big concerns was how my new, bigger family would fit into our current home. I spent several days looking for a new house and running numbers through mortgage calculators online.
Did we end up buying a new home? No, and you shouldn’t either.
If you want to live a long, happy life, don’t make a pregnant woman, especially one pregnant with twins, move her family and house.
Your wife will get extremely large with twins. This means possible bed rest and definite exhaustion. Think for a minute about how she might handle packing up the house, moving to a new location, and getting settled into a new place.
Moving is stressful even without a pregnancy. So don’t do it.
The good news is that you can wait until the babies arrive and reassess the situation.
Amazingly, twins don’t initially take up too much more space than a singleton baby. In fact, you can even consolidate and sleep both twin babies in the same crib for a few months.
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Until the twins start getting mobile, you can survive in your current home assuming you have space for one baby. Twins share a bath, changing table, rocking chair, and even a blanket for tummy time on the floor.
To make sure that you’re going to fit in your current home, consider these questions:
- How many bedrooms do you have in your current house?
- Is there a space for you, you and your spouse to rest?
- Is there space for other children that you have?
- Where are you planning on sleeping?
- Where will the twins sleep?
- Are the twins going to sleep in your bedroom with you?
- Are you going to have the twins in their own room or in a room with sibling?
If you have an extra bedroom or a place for a crib, you should be fine to stay where you currently are living.
If you just have a one bedroom studio apartment, seriously consider what that means as far as your living situation goes when twins arrive.
Do you have other children? Is there enough space for them to sleep and for the twins?
We had two boys already when our twins were born. The boys were in the same room together already. So we simply put the girls into their own bedroom when they arrived.
Always think “can we get by with what we already have?” Often, the answer is going to be yes.
Asking this question will likely buy you some time to figure everything out.
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After the twins are a few months old, or later, you can reassess your living situation.
Between now and then focus on the health of mom during the twin pregnancy and preparing for the twins arrival. House decisions (and other major life decisions) can always come later.
Take a deep breath. Stop searching for a new house. You’ll have plenty of new expenses anyway. Why add a bigger mortgage to the list?
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