Here’s some thoughts along the lines of keeping a good mind set, and remembering that you can control the situation in your home and in your family and in your mind through the thoughts that you have. I read an article today on a blog from a fellow father of twins. His blog is AFatherofTwinBoys.com, and he blogged about something that all of us fathers of twins need, and that is perspective. So he says in his blog post, “I am realizing more and more that fatherhood is all about perspective. And today I choose that being with my boys is a good day.”
This summation really comes up after his summary of how his day went, where he had a really hard day at work. It was crazy; he was under a lot of pressure and stress, and he comes home and all of a sudden his kids give him big hugs. They run to him, they love him, and what a difference that makes in his perspective and in his day.
This is absolutely golden wisdom that each of us should apply as fathers of twins. No matter how hard your day goes, the challenges that you may face, you can always find joy in the love that your twins will give to you through hugs, or a kiss, through playing with you, through their excited faces when you reappear at the house after a long day.
Perspective Is about Remembering
Remember, no matter how bad your day at work was, or how bad your day was, when you get home you need to let that go. You need to let it go when you get home, and turn your focus and attention to your kids and your family. This gives you the opportunity to look around you and see what’s going great with your kids, or even those small moments of interactions that you have with them that make it all worth it.
Remember to find joy in the journey that you’re traveling with your twins. And enjoy those little moments that they share with you when you’re interacting with them, one on one, or two on one, as they attack you when you get home at the end of the day.
So guys, I hope that you can consider how you can change your perspective and your attitude and your mental game to improve the things that you’re doing in your home and with your family.
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This topic was originally addressed on the Dad’s Guide to Twins Podcast Episode 72: Mastering Your Mental Game as a Father of Twins. Picture by Donnie Ray Jones.