Were you shocked to find out you were having twins?
Yes. I mean SUPER yes. I don’t think “shocked” fairly describes the beating I took emotionally and physically when we discovered that we were having twins.
I was in total disbelief. I couldn’t sleep. I lost my appetite. I was dazed and confused.
People will ask you if you were shocked in two main situations:
1. When you tell your family and friends that you’re having twins
2. When you’re out of the house with your twins and are approached by random strangers
Either well intentioned family or inquisitive strangers at the store will ask: “were you shocked when you found out you were having twins?”
I’m baffled by this question as I assume that the person asking the question could imagine their reaction to similar news. Wouldn’t they be shocked too?
Neither my wife or I have twins in our family history – at least that we know of. We had no clue about identical vs. fraternal twins and why you might have either.
Twins weren’t even on our radar of possibilities. Identical twins (like our daughters) are random acts of surprise that God sends to about 1 in 285 pregnancies.
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How to Respond to This Question
When people asked if you were shocked, you could respond in these ways:
“Yes.” or “boy howdy were we ever!” – most people assume you were shocked. In this sense, their question is really a rhetorical question. Just give them the answer they were expecting.
“Wouldn’t you be?” – turn the tables back on the questioner. Since they like talking anyway, give them more of a chance to talk.
“No.” – this is curt and to the point. It isn’t what people are expecting to hear and will likely draw out more personal and invasive questions about fertility treatments or other deeply personal topics.
“I still am” – depending on where you are in the twin journey
How have you responded to the “shocked” question about having twins? What was your reaction when you found out you were expecting twins? Let us know in the comments.
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