by As your twins get older, they will start to get into trouble and be more mischievous. Yes, it is true. They won’t be little angel babies forever.
When any child does something wrong, there is usually a consequence. Something is broken, lost, or left undone. A common practice is that the child will blame a sibling. You likely saw this growing up in your family or with your other children before twins.
However, with twins, things get really interesting. Now, each child has a scapegoat always around. Someone who is the same size, similar appearance, and easy to blame.
Your twins will blame each other. They will point fingers. They will deny any involvement. They will even implicate the other in whatever shenanigan is causing you to be angry.
Who to Trust
As you observe your twins, you’ll start to notice when one is lying or not. Call it parental intuition or just the innocence of youth making it painfully obvious something isn’t the truth.
When you jump to the conclusion of which twin is the guilty party, look for the reaction of both twins. You’ll start to see different reactions meaning “I’ve been falsely accused” or “OK, I’m guilty.”
Ignoring It
Perhaps who is at fault doesn’t really matter. Forgive and forget and move on. No need to reinforce bad behavior by making a big deal about it.
Take Turns Resolving
When in doubt, make your twins take turns cleaning up the mess that one of them made. This will quickly start to help them take responsibility for their actions.
Look for Patterns
Each of your twins will tend to do certain things that break your rules or annoy you. You’ll start to see patterns in what each of your twins does or doesn’t do.
These habits will be easy to spot. You’ll catch a twin in the act of committing the crime. Or the scene will have tell-tale evidence of who was involved.
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As a parent, you’ll be able to know who did what even though you’ve got both twins blaming each other.
Have patience and a discerning eye and you’ll be able to survive the twin blame game.
Excellent advice. Twins may also have loud arguments in order to get their parents’ attention and involve them in trying to sort them out. A refusal to become involved early on will help the children to sort out their own problems before more difficult teenage problems erupt. A call for the kids to come to you for a snack or to help in some way is more effective. Audrey Sandbank Twin therapist Reigate, UK.